This is important!
No one likes nagging, and kids HATE nagging. It makes your voice less noticeable when you do need their attention. When you give kids the chance to do ‘grown up things’ they do actually try to do the right thing, because getting to be grown up is pretty exciting. They most likely won’t need a thousand rules to stay on track and behave.
Having said that, there will be times where they will test you and try something on. You deal with those situations as they come, don’t bombard them with rules to prevent them from getting off track. Hovering also deters kids from displaying independence and from wanting to do things well – they really do want you to trust them to be awesome.
We have one ‘spoken’ rule about breakfast and that’s to do with the level of milk in the carton. Above a certain amount and my youngest is unable to pour it herself without assistance – she knows this. I’ve never told my girls what they can or can’t serve themselves for breakfast… just showing them and telling them what they can have is enough.